If we do not own the feelings of our heart and make them our own. We will take whatever shape the world makes for us, and like water, our hearts will fill whatever container it is put in. As opposed to leading and flowing in the direction we choose. 

It is easy to become angry or bitter when we are hurt or betrayed, but when we have the strength to love those who have hurt us and carry that pain. At the same time, defending those in this world that are worth protecting. We love as Christ taught us to. 

Forgive them, for they know not what they do. Just as if I have wronged you, sometimes I have known not what I do.