The roots of hate and cynicism will only grow in a garden where we focus on what we have lost. Hope, love, and grace flourish in a garden where we evolve from what we have lost and focus on what we can build while protecting others from that pain.
Pain is the fertilizer that people dump into our gardens, hoping it will make our hearts harden. If we maintain love for them and always pardon, what they leave will fertilize our seeds if we have the courage to tend to our gardens.